Friday, January 25, 2008

My oh my

Well, the news from Russia is not very good. We've basically learned three things since our caseworker returned from her maternity leave. (Praise God that she is back - I now have a clear communication channel again with the agency and she is very responsive.)

Here's the scoop:

1) The document we sent (twice) has not arrive either time. According to the FedEx tracking number of the second package, it was attemped to be delivered at 5pm last Friday and the business was closed, and since then every day it says "in transit". Don't know if that means it is on its way back to the U.S. or what. But they never received it at our agency's office in Siberia.

but that doesn't really matter because....

2) We also learned that even though we had talked with our director about moving our file from the new region (where we applied last August) back to Siberia, he never actually did it. This means the other documents that we updated last fall are also not in Siberia. We thought they were there already, since we were told to only re-do the one document.

3) Also, our agency cooperates under the auspices of another one for the Russian side of the adoption (staff in Russia, etc) and apparently that other agency did not have the appropriate updated documents for our case. I don't even know what this is about, but apparently it will be fixed within a week.

What this all means is....

Our file is not ready to be submitted to the Dept of Education in our region, despite our best efforts and our following of every instruction we were given. It is missing several pieces. By the time those pieces arrive (about a week for the stuff coming from the other region and for the stuff from the Russia-side agency, and who knows how long for our document sent by FedEx) it will be February. By late February all of our Siberia documents begin to expire because the signatures are over a year old. (We submitted all of them last time around in April 07, but the ones we obtained first were signed as early as February, and the rest in March.)

Folks, we are just about back to square one. We basically need to do all the paperwork once again. It is hard to believe. We are still promised that we will be first in line (at least within our agency's set of parents) when our documents are submitted, but they will not be submitted for a while because we need to get everything updated. It wouldn't be bad if it were just filling out forms, but we have to get forms from other people/gov't agencies. This includes stuff from our home study agency, and that is always a difficult situation because they are not usually comfortable with our many, detailed requests and it tends to take a couple of rounds to get anything done.

Please be in prayer for us. We've said it before, and we'll say it again: we need to rethink whether to stay with this plan or try something else. We will not give up on becoming parents, but we may need to change course.

6 comments:

Anonymous said...

Oh, Sarah and Rob, I'm so sorry. It's been such a rough road for you. Maybe you'll be able to think of it in terms of the paperwork having to be delayed to make sure it coincides with YOUR child being ready.

(You know, in case things turn that way, CHSFS is a great agency, most especially the Ethiopian program.)
Praying for you & the little one(s),
Carrie

Unknown said...

We are praying for you and can sympathize with you. This is not an easy journey.

Rob said...

I'm definitely sympathetic to your plight with all of this. Honestly, this smacks of some of the jerking around we got from our first agency. In our case, it seemed like some pretty unethical behavior. In yours, it's sounds like blatant incompetence. Either way, if you get to the point where you've lost all confident or faith in, it may be time to move on to a different agency.

I know firsthand that making that kind of switch is filled with emotional turmoil - and I'm not saying it's definitely the right choice for everyone - but for Dede & me, switching to CSS was the absolute best thing we've done since beginning our adoption journey. And if you're about to have to redo all of your paperwork anyway...

Anonymous said...

Hi, Sarah & Rob. Wow - I agree with Rob who says this smacks of incompetence. How disappointing. We are praying for you. David's brother and his wife are currently working on an adoption from China and are using Bethany Christian Services - they are wonderful! I hope that the next few weeks go smoothly for you with all the paper chasing. Shannon Bothof

All About the B's said...

Wow, that marks an all time low. It makes me apprehensive about going with the agency a second time. Olga's maternity leave really stopped the communication on the Russia families. I am hoping to see that improve with a few more days. Our thoughts are with you as you search for answers. I am sure you will find a way to work through this and move forward. I do agree that our agency has done you NO FAVORS and I hope they fix things for you either in paperwork or letting you go easily with a full refund would be great. I know we had trouble with them too during our adoption and wondered if we should change, somehow your heart will lead you right.

Anonymous said...

Sarah,

I am sitting at my computer wanting to scream out loud in extreme frustration on your behalf -- I can't imagine how you are bearing it. This is really quite unbelievable. I am so sorry.

- Karen P.